Kelsey Lewis, erotic romance author, blog

This is the rantings and ravings of a forty-something woman, who is trying to somehow squeeze writing into her crazy days of managing a household and chasing three kids (including two teenagers!)

Name: Kelsey Lewis

Friday, May 09, 2008

The unexpected joys of writing (or – don’t be afraid to get your hands dirty!)

As some of you know, I’m in the middle of writing a story for Amber Quill that features an orgy. Yikes! I definitely had days in the beginning where I wondered what the heck I was thinking. After several starts and tosses (which tend to be how I write) I finally found my stride and am having fun with it.

My female protagonist in the story, Mia, is a sculptor, and throughout the course of the story there are scenes from a clay pottery class she’s teaching. Now, I probably haven’t actually worked with clay since high school art class. Of course, like many writers, I turned to the internet for information and a few of the details. Working with my critique group, I had an interesting comment from someone. Need more details in the class – more ‘showing’, less ‘telling’ (and all the writers out there know, if we had a nickel, or even a penny, from every time someone told us that, etc etc).

Time to do some research. I’ve always been nervous about doing research. I’m a bit uncomfortable with calling up someone and saying ‘hi, I’m a fiction writer and I need some details on what you do.’ Fortunately, however, I’ve been listening to Anne Lamott and her wonderful book ‘Bird by Bird’ and lecture based on the book ‘Word by Word’. I recommend them highly if you need some inspiration. In both of those, she liberally encourages writers to pick up the phone and call experts in the field to get information.

So, fortified with my Anne Lamott-inspired courage, I found a local pottery studio, called the owner, and set up an appointment to spend an evening with them. I had an amazing time. I do find writers, artists, and musicians always mix well, so that probably helped. I was able to observe the processes, look at tools and ask their names, talk to people about their triumphs and failures, and get my questions answered about timelines and the glazing process (no, it’s not realistic to expect people to mold with clay and get their pieces fired and glazed over the one week course of my story!). I watched people throw pots on wheels, trim, add handles, mold over bowls and add textures, and braid extruded coils. A wonderful woman making garden spikes took me through her process step by step and had me use rubber stamps to imprint the names of the plants – trickier than it looked.

Will I use everything I learned in the story – of course not. But it was a very worthwhile trip, in three ways. 1. People love to talk about what they do – don’t be afraid to ask. 2. I got a much better sense of the art I’m working with, and that will infuse my scenes so they don’t scream stupid. And 3. (most important) For heaven’s sakes, do your research first! I’d create a sign that says that and post it by my computer, but I’m sure I won’t forget the time I’m now spending rewriting my pottery class scenes.

Contest note – If you like this blog (or even if you just read it!) leave me a comment. Everyone leaving a comment on my blogs during May will be entered in a draw for a $10 Amber Quill Press gift certificate, one entry per comment.

-Kelsey Lewis
Shamelessly erotic
www.kelsey-lewis.com

Wednesday, May 07, 2008

Turn off the screens and make your kids bored!

Yesterday I witnessed a sight that took my breath away – my thirteen year old son, who is probably clinically borderline ADHD but who we like to call ‘spirited’ – sitting on the couch, lost in … a book! A real live very thick fantasy paperback! I had to grab a wall so as not to drop to the ground. (If he had been aware of me he would have rolled his eyes and said ‘oh Mom!’ – but he wasn’t)

What brought on this completely out-of-character behavior from my child, who tells me over and over he hates to read? A little creative parental discipline. We had one too many disagreements with a teacher over whether homework is optional (my son thinks it is, the teachers and parents not so much), so we put in place a ‘to the end of the term’ restriction – no more TV or recreational computer during the school week. It’s a restriction we’ve used off and on over the years with my kids, depending upon attention to school work and parental time and energy to monitor it. My hope, of course, was that then they would have more time and mental energy to remember and do their homework. That’s been a hit or miss effect. The unintended, surprise outcome (which I probably should have expected) was that, they’re bored, unused as they are to finding entertainment that didn’t involve planting themselves in front of a screen and letting someone else take over their minds.

Boredom in children, I find, is a good thing, a necessary thing. Because everyone can only take so much boredom. In their search to relieve it, they’ll do a lot of things they wouldn’t normally do, or wouldn’t do a lot of – read, practice instruments, play board games. These activities, let’s face it, take more effort, more engagement, and more mental energy, especially for the ‘flickers’ generation. I find if you ask them to do these things, while they’re in front of a screen, or when being in front of a screen is an option, you often get a fight, and a lot of edginess. It’s amazing how the fight goes away, and the edginess eases, not just when you turn the screens off, but when the option is removed.

I’ll end with a story about the musical family Leahy, one of the most amazing phenomena I’ve ever witnessed. They’re a wonderful family of musicians, 11 children, who grew up near where we used to live in Ontario. If you ever get a chance to see them in your area, run, don’t walk, to the ticket booth. They all play multiple instruments and step-dance, often at the same time. Various combinations of 8 or 9 of them perform together at any one time. Can you imagine keeping that many kids occupied growing up? I can’t. But I do know that they grew up dancing and practicing music on their farm – with no TV. Makes me think a lot.

So I’m not advocating throwing out the TV (I admit I’d be lost without my Buffalo Bills in the Fall!), but I am advocating keeping a weathery eye out for an reason to turn it off for planned amounts of time. Nothing like a questionable report card or over-curfew transgression as an excuse to say – ‘okay, turning the screens off during the week’. Maybe your kids will get bored too, and surprise you with how they decide to fill their newly found time.

-Kelsey Lewis
Shamelessly Erotic
www.kelsey-lewis.com

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Wednesday, March 26, 2008

These are a few of my favorite reads…

I got a call from my friend Christiane France a few months back, and she said to me “I see that you’ve signed up to contribute to the orgy pax.” Then she congratulated me on being brave enough to try and push the envelope with my writing, as she’s been doing the last year.

They were encouraging words. I took on the story in that pax because I had a tale I’d been working through in my mind for a while, and thought it would fit. However – yikes! An orgy? I’d never written anything before that was wilder than a level 2 heat, and this has to be level three. And nothing more than heterosexual love scenes between two people.

So, where did I go for inspiration and ideas? Amber Quill, of course. While working away on my story, I’ve been reading away also. In the course of my ‘research’, I’ve come across some stories that I’ve really enjoyed. Since I know a lot of writers take a look at the blogs, I’ve also included a plotting book I’ve found particularly helpful.

So, for what it’s worth, here are a very few of some recent AQ stories I’ve particularly liked, in no particular order. What I’m hoping for are some suggestions from all of you, as I consider my research ongoing!

Inseparable, Christiane France. This wasn’t a ménage story – I just bought it because I wanted to read something written by my friend. I loved it! Nice quirky, plucky, down on her luck heroine, interesting change of pace first person point of view, fun ghost story (and ghost), great English setting. Lots of great sex – loved the sex in the woods scene.

All Four One, Caitlyn Willows. I’ve decided I’m going to just submit all my stories without titles and ask Caitlyn to name them, as I thought the title for this story worked on so many levels. It’s a light, short read, with a simple problem that leads the four main characters into bed with each other for reasons that make sense. Their hesitation and fear about getting into bed together makes the story believable. Once they do, the sex is wild. Hot and heartwarming is how I would describe this story – my favorite kind.

Armed and Amorous, Deirdre O’Dare. I’m a little plotting challenged, as my critique group can attest. I loved the page-turning tense plotting in this story and the tough law-enforcement heroine. I’m also a sucker for reunion stories, and this was one where the hero and heroine knew each other as teenagers.

Sache’s Consort, Isabella Jordan. While I adore reading and writing erotica, I’m a romance junkie first. This story has a wonderful love story where the hero and heroine have a secret, dangerous romance that seems to have no way of working itself out. But of course it does, with a ménage solving the problem (that’s why I love romance!).

Alliance, Galactic Affairs, Lyndi Lamont. A world far, far away, a devil-may-care womanizer who gets hooked by a complicated woman, a story in the middle of a series. This one had me checking for the rest of titles and getting my credit card ready!

Write Great Fiction: Plot and Structure, James Scott Bell. This is the best writing book I’ve read in a long time. Great encouragement, ideas, and exercises. Terrific for those dark moments when you need help.


So that’s my very small list of what I’ve been reading at night before I go to bed (my main reading time), in between writing. I’m looking for reader suggestions as to their favorite stories featuring multiple partners. Any recommendations?

-Kelsey Lewis
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Thursday, March 01, 2007

Game, Set … Match? , or how I turned my father’s four month sabbatical into an erotica story!



This is my ‘story behind the story’, or in other words, the genesis of my story Game, Set … Match?, part of the “Best In Game” Amber Pax. When Trace put out the call for a sports themed Amber Pax, I thought it was a perfect match. I grew up in a house where sports really was the dominant religion. My father was a basketball and tennis coach at the University of Albany, and my brothers had athletic ability coming out of every pore of their bodies. My brother Tim, one year younger than me, was a fabulous tennis player, playing number one on the school varsity team probably in his 10th grade year, and my youngest brother, Michael, led our high school basketball team far in the state finals his senior year. Anyway, being a college professor, my father decided to take a sabbatical to learn to teach and coach tennis back in the ‘70s. So, somehow, he dragged me and my four siblings and my mother to live on a tennis ranch in Texas for four months.

It was a fun experience – basically, we got to live on a resort, with tennis courts and ball machines available 24/7 for us to use, indoor facilities with ping pong tables, a swimming pool, and a constantly changing group of guests, some of whom were tennis and entertainment celebrities. It’s hard to begin to describe what it was like moving from NY state to Texas. Let’s just say that Texans describe where they live like it’s another country, and most of the time we agreed with them.

So when I decided to pick a subject for my sports story, I thought it would be fun to have a fantasy about living on a tennis ranch in Texas. Only problem was, I haven’t played tennis in a while (bad knees) and I haven’t lived in Texas in 30-some years! Fortunately, my father is still alive, and in his seventies both coaches and plays tennis, and I still have a friend who lives in the little town of New Braunfels, which is really where the Bar None ranch is set (although I’ll never call it that!). I relied heavily on them for help, but I think my friend Mike in Texas had the most fun, especially with all my weird questions (okay, I want them to have sex somewhere in San Antonio after walking on the River Walk, but not in a hotel. Any ideas?) He and I brainstormed over the phone several times and he helped me get the details just right.

I’m going to San Antonio in April, right before the RT conference in Houston, to do some more research, and then hopefully write three more stories based on the ranch and Jaime, my heroine’s, family. And right now, with a winter storm barreling down on us here in Ontario, the trip can’t come too soon!

Review in RRT Erotic, by Jennifer Bishop, for Game, Set … Match?: In Jaime Alexander’s opinion, there’s no better place to play tennis than her family’s ranch in the Texas Hill Country. Of course, that is only if she can manage to stay away from her father. While at the Bar None, Jaime runs into her brother’s former doubles partner, the very sexy Mac Garza.

Mac is surprised to see that Jaime is all grown up, but floored by the siren who propositions him. The former tennis star is definitely intrigued by Jaime: a woman unimpressed by his celebrity and interested in the man behind the image. But there are still some things they’ll have to work out before a relationship can work.

Two friends find an unexpected love on the courts in GAME, SET ... MATCH? The chemistry between Jaime and Mac sizzles, but there is more than sex to their relationship. Mac is recovering from an injury and is trying to decide what to do with his life now. Jaime was a tennis phenom when she was younger, but gave it up to chase her dreams, which caused difficulties between her and her father. The time Jaime and Mac spend together will help them each deal with their issues.

An interesting short story, be sure to check out GAME, SET ... MATCH?

Wednesday, September 27, 2006

Finding a quiet place to write

(This is copy of the blog I put on the Amberquill Heat authors blog today)

As I hopped in the shower, my mind was buzzing. Call about setting up new committee next week! Call about breakfast meeting at Rotary Club next week! Book cabins for next summer! Run over to merchant for prize donation! Oh, and of course, blog today! Arrgghh!! (and ‘talk like a pirate day’ is long past!)

How does one write amongst all this chaos? The simple fact is – sometimes you do, sometimes you don’t. The simple reality is – I promised AQ a story at the end of October, and I have to get it done! (can you hear a second Arrgghh gurgling in my throat?)

A writer friend of mine once said ‘you have to find a quiet place from which to write’. I thought it was one of those really cool truisms but I really had no idea what it meant. I’m rapidly finding out, as the cacophony of my life is making it difficult to write. I am finding that when I clear the junk out of my life, and it’s not constantly buzzing in my head, words and phrases and descriptions and plot twists bubble to the surface. When my head’s full of other things the noise tends to drown out the writing. I can still write in this state (most of the time) but it tends to come out stilted (she went downstairs, he went outside) and needs massive editing (she glided down the massive oak staircase, careful not to step on the train of her blue chiffon gown, blah blah).

How does one find this quiet place, so that the muse can whisper sweet nothings into your ear? I don’t really have any magic wand to wipe the rest of the world away. But I do have a number of ‘de-stressers’ that can create some space and peace in your life, or give you the illusion of it for short periods of time, so you can steal a few hours in the midst of your latest life crisis (right now I’m trying to put on a poker fundraiser at the same time as trying to get this story done!) and accomplish current writing goals (and keep any promises made to Trace in a moment of madness!)

So, here’s my latest top ten list, in no particular order, of ways to create a quiet place to write from, even if it’s only for a few hours:

1. Music. We’re not talking Metallica here (although I have a fondness for Whiskey In the Jar.) What is it with being in your mid-forties – I am having the worst time sleeping, and letting go of the day. I’ve discovered ‘sleep music’ - particularly David and Steve Gordon, and an album called “Pillow Music’. It’s a wonderful combo of soft music and nature sounds that’s very relaxing. Someone at my church told me they work at their computer to it – I actually haven’t tried that yet. But I do love to play romantic music when I’m writing romance – Billy Joel’s “You’re My Home’, kick ass stuff when I’m writing a crazy heroine - ‘We built this city’ by Jefferson Starship.

2. Make lists and use them. Nothing is worse than stuff swirling in your mind that you have to do and you’re afraid you’re going to forget. Instead of repeating it every 10 minutes like a mantra, start a to-do list and write it down, and get to it when you have time. I like to use the software “Lifebalance” for my Palm pilot, but there’s lots of software out there. And of course, good old paper and pencil (just don’t lose it!)

3. Schedule your day and protect your writing time. How come common sense just isn’t ‘common’? Take five minutes to look at your week. When is the best time to write, when is the best time to run errands, when is the best time to cook, etc. The put your writing time on your schedule in ‘permanent ink’, turn off the phone and the email, and try not to schedule anything else during that time.

4. Sign up for Flylady. I found this years ago. It really is magic – a supportive, non-judgmental, really practical on-line group that helps you declutter your life. It’s amazing how much less stress you have, and your family has, when there’s less junk in every corner. www.Flylady.net.

5. Exercise or take a walk: Exercise is a natural de-stresser – something about endorphins and all those other good chemicals. I like to do it in the morning - I seem to feel less stress when I start my day at the computer feeling like I’ve already accomplished something. As far as walking – sometimes it’s great to get away from the computer when the plot or the characters are a mess, pace the neighborhood and let your mind race. The muse that was hiding in the closet will sometimes decide the scenery looks better and come along for a stroll.

6. Go on a retreat. One of my critique groups goes on an annual retreat to a place with large houses way out in the woods. There are no TVs, no phones, no kids or husbands, lots of amazing food and camaraderie. Sometimes I fly in half dressed, half packed, babbling incoherently, and haven’t submitted anything for critiquing in months. Sometimes we write short stories. Sometimes we do relaxation exercises. But I always leave refreshed, relaxed, and with a fresh determination to write.

7. Go write away from home. Last year I had two months to write “Cooking With K.C.” and one life crisis after another. I almost had a panic attack when I went to Pittsburgh to help with a dying uncle, knowing I had the February deadline and not sure how I was going to meet it. My 11 year old kept wanting to go to Games Workshop and play for a few hours. The last thing I wanted to do was leave my computer at home and drive him around. So I started packing up the story onto my NEC mobilepro (mini-laptop) and writing there. Magic! No one knew me there. No one bothered me. I told Montana to keep playing. And I dedicated the story to him.

8. Stop procrastinating and write. One of my critique friends wrote the other day ‘Why does it always seem harder before you begin and then when you're into it you wonder ... what the heck was the problem.’ Exactly. Much more stressful to worry about what you haven’t written and have to write than to actually … write!

9. Learn to say no. This is another common sense ‘duh’ that I’m not good at but trying. My kids want to send me to ‘volunteers anonymous’. It’s the curse of the stay-at-home mom. I told someone I was trying to declutter my schedule and dropping one of the boards I’m on and she said ‘so, you’ll have more time to join my committee’. Arrgghh! No!

10. Turn off the TV. It is a big time suck. I tune in for five minutes and two hours are gone. And then I’m surprised when I can’t sleep because I wasted the only two writing hours I had all day. Hide the remotes!

So, that’s my list. What’s on yours? I’m begging you – I’m always looking for good ideas. Help. De-stressers.

(and if anyone wants to buy tickets to a poker fundraiser, let me know!)

-Kelsey Lewis
Stories that are romantic ... and erotic
www.kelsey-lewis.com
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Stories available: http://www.amberquill.com/AmberHeat/bio_Lewis.html

Reunion "The passion between the characters was so intense that you felt heartache when they couldn't be together." ~ Aline de Chevigny, In the Library Reviews

Desirable Enemy - The plot throws the reader into the story immediately and continues to be fast paced throughout. ~ Jean, Fallen Angel Reviews

Cooking with K.C. - A wonderful romance that will put a smile on your face. ~ Wateena, Coffee Time Romance

Wednesday, March 29, 2006

This is my first blog! I thought I'd better test this all out before I have to add a blog for the Amber Quill author's blog on Monday.

The house is still under contruction (well, the basement anyway) and I've spent the better part of 2 days looking for brackets for the shelving. What a pain!

On the writing front, I'm having an awful time with the printer we're using to make our bookmarks. They want me to create the file in Publisher, which I don't currently own. Considering I've already spent more than I should have on Frontpage to make the website, along with the laminator, I think I'm done. I also think it's time to look for a new printer.

One of the kids (we'll call him son # 1) is home from school today, supposedly to work on his school project. ARRRGGGHHH!

I hope tomorrow is a better day!

-KL